The Mind's Role in Wellness
Hey guys. Welcome to the Saluber Coaching Show. Helping you make wellness a priority. My name is Dr. Matthew Blaylock, and in today's episode, I'm going to be talking with you about how your mind affects your level of wellness. In a previous episode, I talked with you about how problems don't exist. Problems aren't concrete things that you can hold in your hand. Problems are only a matter of thinking. The way a person perceives the circumstance will determine whether or not they consider that thing to be a problem. I also talked about two different levels of thinking. The first level is the content. It's the thing that you're thinking about. Maybe it's the pictures you see in your mind or the sound that you're hearing in any given time. Most people are aware of that level of thinking, but below that, deeper than that is another level of thinking. And, that is the quality of how you're thinking about it. It can be things like the location of the image in your mind or the volume of the sound or the brightness or the color. All of these things are the qualities, and those qualities of how you're thinking will have a large impact on the way that you're experiencing any circumstance in your life.
Frames of Mind
Now, today I want to talk with you about the concept of frames of mind. There are a lot of ways to talk about this. People often talk about paradigms or belief systems or worldviews. There are a lot of ways to talk about these frames of mind, but in general, it's the way that you are looking at a situation at any given time or the overarching framework that you apply to your life before something ever happens. There's a quote that says, “Seeing is believing.” Well, it's also true, in a lot of cases, that, “Believing is seeing.” What you have in your mind is what you will see come true in your life. If you perceive people to be mean and hurtful, you will filter for finding people that are mean and hurtful in your life. If you perceive that there's goodness and kindness in the world, you will filter to find goodness and kindness in the actions of people every day. In a lot of ways, your frame of mind determines the direction of your life and the reason I say that is because it kind of set the rules. This frame of mind sets the rules for the way that you behave or the way that you perceive things, and that has a great influence on how you experience wellness in your life every day. I talked before about wellness being the choices that you experience in your life every day. This frame of mind will decide for you what you're going to do or what you're not going to do. What you're going to see what you're not going to see. What you're going to pay attention to or what you're going to ignore.
Frames of Mind about Dieting
To make this very practical and applicable, think about diets. Think about people that want to lose weight. In a lot of ways, people only want to look at the external actions of going on a diet. People find the new fad diet of the month, and they try to follow whatever is written in the diet or whatever somebody tells them they need to do for the diet. And then, in two weeks or a month or six weeks, they find out that the diet isn't working for them. Something has gone wrong, and they stopped doing whatever they were doing. Now, the reason that happened is because they're working only from the external perspective. They haven't taken a look at their frames of mind about weight loss or the frames of mind about dieting.
Frames of Mind about Exercise
The same thing is true for exercise. It's really easy to go to the gym and get a physical trainer to give you a program that would help a person get fit and lose weight and be healthier. And if it were that easy, no one would have a problem with their health. The challenge is most people have certain frames of mind about exercise or frames mind about working out. Until someone becomes aware of these frames of mind about diet or eating or about exercise and working out, they’re going to have trouble ever consistently applying certain behaviors in those aspects of their life. They're going to continually run into walls about things that they're unaware of.
I talked before about the first step in the path of wellness is awareness. Being aware of the choices that you're making but also being aware of these frames of mind that are affecting your life and your behavior in every situation of every day. How do you go about becoming aware of your frames of mind? The first step is simply to begin to look at yourself. Look at the way that you've been living your life. Look at how the choices you've been making have added up to give you a certain perspective or a certain worldview. Now, ask yourself are you happy? Do you want to live this way for the next year, the next five years or the next 10 years? Do you want to continue the same pattern? If not, then you have the ability to make a new choice. What is it that you would like to see? What is it that you would like to believe? Is there anything stopping you from believing that? If there is, what do you need to do to overcome that obstacle?
Finding the Right Information
You, as an adult, have choices to make in your life. If you are content with your life in the present way, in the present state that you're living, then great. I'm so happy for you. Continue doing exactly what you're doing, but if there are issues, if there are things that you would like to change, then you have the ability to make those changes. You just need to become aware. Then, the next step, once you become aware, is to get the right information. The information that you need is going to be different than the information someone else needs more than likely. There are some general rules that are applicable to everybody, but in general, you are a unique individual, and you have unique individual needs. You need the right information that applies to you. How do you go about finding that? You need to begin with a simple process of trial and error. You can begin from anywhere. Start, get some feedback, and then change your course according to the feedback that you get. It sounds very simple, but in reality, it is. Just begin. When you begin, pay attention to the results you get. Do you like those results? Then move forward. Continue what you're doing. You don't like the results, do something different. As you do that, it will become a pattern in your life. And, that pattern will be one of the most important steps you can take on your journey towards wellness.
Let me know in the comments below about any frames of mind that you have become aware of in your life and we’ll begin a conversation about what we can do to change these frames of mind. Until we meet again next time, I'm Dr. Matthew Blaylock. Be strong and live well