"Problems" Don't Exist
Hey guys. Welcome to the Saluber Coaching Show. Helping you make wellness a priority. My name is Dr. Matthew Blaylock. In today's episode, I'm going to be talking with you about problems. And, as we begin, have you ever faced a problem in your life? Whatever that may be for you, begin thinking about it right now, as I'm talking with you about problems, so you have something to work on as I'm sharing this information with you. Now, to begin with, how do you define problem in your life? How do you explain what a problem is? Not the content of the problem, but problems in general.
First Definition of Problem
Well, there are two simple definitions, and the first definition is a problem is something that has a solution. If a problem doesn't have the solution, it is not a problem. It's simply a fact of life. Let me give you an example of that. A lot of times people come to me, and they asked about how can I lose weight? Or, what do I need to do to drop a few pounds? I share with them they can change their diet, or they can begin to exercise, or they can get on a regular sleeping pattern. These things will help a person begin to lose weight. It's a choice that people can make to begin to lose those pounds. Now, people often come to me also and say I would like to be a little taller. I'm self-conscious about my height. What can I do to grow a little more? I say you know what, sorry bro, you're short. There's nothing you can do at this point if you're already an adult. You're not going to grow anymore. There's nothing you can do to stretch your body out and be taller after you're an adult. That's just a fact of life, and it's something that you need to just simply accept.
Second Definition of Problem
The second part of the definition of a problem is that it's the distance or the separation between where you currently are in your life and where you'd like to be. If there's any kind of distance between these two things, people consider that distance as a problem in their life. Now, people usually focus on the content of problems. Think about money. A lot of people say that they don't have enough money and that's a problem for them. Although, there are some people that say they have too much money and that's a problem for them. There are other people that say I'm lonely. I would love to be in a relationship. That's a problem for me. I don't have anyone to share my life with. There are other people that say I'm afraid of dying. I don't want to get sick. I don't know what will happen if I get sick and that's a problem for these people. But, that's not a problem for everyone.
Problems Only Exist Inside a Person’s Mind
Problems are completely dependent on the person that's experiencing it. Let me give you an example. There are people that don't have any money, and they are as happy as can be. Their life is fulfilled not because they need money. They're happy in spite of not having money. There are people that are single, and they're totally happy being single. They don't need to be in a relationship. They don't feel lonely. They don't want to have anyone else in their life. They're happy the way they are. There are people who are laying on their death bed tonight, and they're totally at peace with their situation. They're not afraid of dying. It's not a problem for them. Problems only exist in an individual's mind. Problems are not real. You can't reach into your pocket and pull out problem. A problem is not something that's concrete like a rock or a desk or a chair. That's something you can pick up and hold. You can't hold a problem. A problem is only an idea in your mind. It's the way that you are looking at or thinking about a circumstance that you're currently facing. Which means, the absolute easiest and fastest and simplest way to deal with the problem is to change your mindset. You change your perspective about that problem. And, once you do that, I guarantee you will have a different experience about whatever situation that you previously defined as a problem.
Now, let me know in the comments down below how do you define problem? What would be your suggestion? Do you agree that problem is something that has a solution and something that is the separation of the distance between what you're currently experiencing and what you would like to experience? If you have a different idea or suggestion, let me know in the comments down below, and we'll begin to have a chat about it. Until we meet again. My name is Dr. Matthew Blaylock. Be strong and live well.