Knowing Is Half the Battle
Hey guys. Welcome to the Saluber Coaching Show. Helping you make wellness a priority. My name is Dr. Matthew Blaylock In today's episode, I'm going to be talking with you about one of the most important parts of the wellness coaching process, and that is for you to have a clear outcome in mind or for you to establish a clear goal before you begin. Now, I've talked in previous episodes about how the mind is directly involved in the wellness process. And, I've also talked about how problems don't really exist. Problems are simply the separation between what you're currently experiencing and what you would like to experience in your life. If there's distance between those two things, people usually define that as a problem. Well, today we're going to continue that discussion and talk about what is the first step in the Wellness process. I've talked about that being awareness. You need to become aware of the choices that you have to make in your life every day. And, then part of the awareness process is knowing what it is that you want to achieve in your life or knowing what it is that you want to get through this process. Wellness is not a destination to reach. It is a journey that you'll go through for your entire life and what is it that you want to experience on that journey. That is the first question that I ask of all of my clients. What is it that you want.
What Do You Want?
Now, this is important because anytime you're planning a journey or anytime you're planning a trip, you need to know at least two points of reference. You need to know where it is you want to arrive? Where it is you want to get to or what's that point at the destination that you want to reach. But, you also need to know where you're starting from. If you know one of those points without the other, it is not very helpful. If you know we're starting from, but you don't have any destination in mind, you can just go any direction. IF you don't have a clear endpoint, you don't ever know if you've arrived. And a lot of people also, they know where they want to get to, but they're not really clear on where they're starting from. It's kind of like knowing where you want to arrive but not knowing where you are currently. Your kind of lost in the middle of the forest. You know where you want to get to, but you don't know where you're starting from. Both of those points are very important in the wellness coaching process, and I typically spend the first session - one to two hours - helping a client through understanding what it is they truly want through the coaching process. How I can help facilitate them and where they're starting from today. When you know those two points, then we can help plan the change process.
The change process is the steps or the process that you're going to go through to get from point A to point B. Now, with that, I use a lot of questions in the facilitation process. What I mean by facilitation is it's not my role to tell you what you need to do. I'm not your mom or dad. I'm not your parent. I'm not your drill instructor. As a coach, I'm here to facilitate you, and that means that I'm here to help you find the solutions for yourself. I do that through helping you become clear about what you want and helping you become clear about the information that you need.
Coaching Is Tailored for You
Not all information is right for all people in all situations. People are unique individuals, and they have different life situations. They have different goals in mind and to try to apply the same information to all people at all times in all situation isn't really appropriate. So, a lot of times, consultants come in, and they just tell you what you should do. Eat this. Exercise like this. Sleep at this time. Think this way and everything will be fine. Well, that's great if it works for you, and if it does, you're one of the lucky ones because the vast majority of people aren't so lucky. Most people will try the information out and find that it doesn't work for them. The coaching process is much different. The coaching process is tailored to your unique individuality. As a coach, I spend a lot of time asking questions to help you figure out what it is that you need to do. Figure out what it is that you need to change. To understand what are the things going on in the back of your mind. To become aware of those mindsets and become aware of those ideas or beliefs that may be limiting you. And, then to help you change those things so that you can move forward and obtain the goals that you want in your life.
Starting the Wellness Coaching Process
Now over the next few episodes, I'm going to be walking you through the process. To begin with today, the first question that I always ask is what do you want? What is it that you would like to achieve? What is this destination that you would like to reach? What does wellness mean for you? When you become clear about that, then you can begin thinking about the steps you need to take. But, until you know this point or until you know what wellness is or until you have a clear picture in your mind, the other steps are not clear. The next question is what will you see? What will you hear? What will you feel? What are the indicators? What is the proof? What is the evidence that you’ve reached your goal? How would you know when you've reached your destination? And, when you know those things, you have some concrete evidence. You have some mile markers that will help you along the way to say that you've reached your goal. Begin by thinking about those two questions this week. What is it that you want and how will you know when you've gotten there? What will you see? What will you hear? What will you feel? What will be different? When you look down at your scale and notice that you're at a certain weight? Will you be able to measure your waist and see that you've lost several inches? Will you be able to lift a certain amount of weight? Will be able to wake up and feel energized? There can be any number of evidence. Any number of ways that you can prove to yourself that you've reached your goal. But what is it specifically for you.
Let me know in the comments down below. What is the thing that you define as wellness for you and what is your measure of proof what will you use to know that you've reached your definition of wellness? With those two questions in mind, we'll continue in the next episode to talk more about what's going to help you through this change process. Until we meet again. My name is Dr. Matthew Blaylock. Be strong and live well.